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Episode 178: Spotify | Apple Podcasts | YouTubeView transcript on Buzzsprout About five years ago, my husband left for a four day trip with his brothers. I wanted him to go. Then my son, who was barely a year old, got sick, then I got sick, and I ended up calling my husband in tears. […]

Episode 177: Spotify | Apple Podcasts | YouTubeView transcript on Buzzsprout Most people running on empty would never describe themselves that way. They say they’re fine, just busy. They say they should be able to handle more. They shrink every request for help down to the smallest possible size, and they wait to ask until […]

Episode 176: Spotify | Apple Podcasts | YouTubeView transcript on Buzzsprout A member recently wrote into our monthly Q&A inside the Regulated Living Membership with a question I hear in some form all the time. During her most recent round of depression, she gained a significant amount of weight. Her mood has improved since then, […]

Episode 177: Spotify | Apple Podcasts | YouTubeView transcript on Buzzsprout A client of mine had a rough week a few months ago. Several times she felt a cry building, and every time it was the wrong moment. Underneath the bad timing was a bigger worry: she didn’t trust herself to stop once she started. […]

Episode 175: Spotify | Apple Podcasts | YouTubeView transcript on Buzzsprout One of the things clients are most surprised to learn is how often anxiety or depression shows up alongside digestive issues. IBS, constipation, reflux, bloating, food sensitivities. And usually those two things have been treated in completely separate corners. A doctor addresses the gut […]

Episode 174: Spotify | Apple Podcasts | YouTubeView transcript on Buzzsprout This summer my family flew home from two weeks in Southern California visiting my parents. Five of us plus our new dog, checked under the plane for the first time, which went fine. We got to LAX with time to spare, and then the […]

Episode 168: Spotify | Apple Podcasts | YouTubeView transcript on Buzzsprout Understanding what the nervous system is and how it works is one thing. The question that tends to feel more urgent is: why won’t it regulate? Why, even when life looks fine from the outside, does the system stay stuck in anxiety or shutdown? […]

Episode 167: Spotify | Apple Podcasts | YouTubeView transcript on Buzzsprout In the previous episode of this series, we introduced the nervous system ladder: green at the top for regulation, yellow in the middle for activation where anxiety lives, and red at the bottom for shutdown where depression lives. This episode goes deeper into each […]

Episode 166: Spotify | Apple Podcasts | YouTubeView transcript on Buzzsprout Most people who come to this work have been told something is wrong with them. They’ve been anxious for years, or they’ve cycled through therapy, tried medication, read the books, and still feel stuck. What tends to be missing is a framework: a way […]

Episode 165: Spotify | Apple Podcasts | YouTubeView transcript on Buzzsprout Of all the reframes I return to in client work, in the membership, and in my own life, this one comes up the most: anxiety is the result of overestimating a threat paired with underestimating your ability to manage it. It’s simple enough to […]

Episode 164: Spotify | Apple Podcasts | YouTubeView transcript on Buzzsprout A few years ago, while thinking about the things I wish had been more obvious to me growing up, I wrote a short song for my kids. It started as a one-time bedtime experiment and turned into a nightly staple. One evening, after singing […]

Episode 163: Spotify | Apple Podcasts | YouTubeView transcript on Buzzsprout For nearly 300,000 years, the sunrise was humanity’s alarm clock. People woke, stepped outside, and moved through their day in natural light, not as a wellness practice, just as life. Lightbulbs have only been common in homes for about a hundred years. The fully […]