3 Powerful Reframes to Deepen Your Healing Journey (Healing Reframes – Part 2)
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If you’ve ever struggled with being too hard on yourself, stuffing down emotions, or spiraling into shame after an emotional outburst—this one’s for you. Building off last week’s reflection on compassionate self-awareness, this episode dives deeper into three more powerful healing reframes that blend neuroscience, compassion, and accountability.
What We Cover in This Episode
- How to use “firm but kind” self-talk to build both safety and structure
- A new way to respond to big emotions without suppressing them
- The connection-before-correction framework (and how it applies to more than parenting)
- Real examples of reparenting moments in daily life
- How these reframes layer with nervous system and parts work
“Firm But Kind” Reframe
Healing often requires a mix of warmth and boundaries. Amanda explores how you can validate a part of yourself that wants to opt out of something you know you should do— while still doing the thing. “Firm but kind” is the language of a regulated adult-self speaking to younger or overwhelmed part inside of us the same way a regulated parent might be firm but kind about something their kid doesn’t want to do but needs to do. This reframe isn’t about pushing through; it’s about showing up for yourself with steadiness and care AND holding yourself compassionately accountable for what needs to happen.
“I Am the Anchor While They Storm” Reframe
Whether you’re parenting a toddler or holding space for your own anxiety, the work is the same: learning to stay present with discomfort. Amanda reframes emotional regulation not as the pursuit of calm, but the capacity to weather intensity. She offers practical ways to anchor yourself during big emotions without spiraling or shutting down.
“Connection Before Correction” Reframe
Amanda brings this one to life with a personal parenting story (and a little friendly husband-roasting). But the real takeaway? Misattunement doesn’t just happen with others—it happens internally, too. She shows how you can validate a protective part of you before redirecting it, leading to more effective and compassionate change.
Which of these reframes impacted you most? I’d love to know!
Three Tangible Takeaways
- Firm but Kind: Practice speaking to yourself like a supportive inner guide. Acknowledge the discomfort and still take action that aligns with your healing.
- Find an Anchor: When emotions surge, name them without judgment. Then reach for a stabilizing tool—breath, movement, a grounding object—to stay present.
- Connect Before You Correct: When a behavior frustrates you, lead with compassion. Then redirect with clarity. This builds trust between your parts and your authentic self.
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Disclaimer: This article is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or qualified mental health provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition.
